FEMALE EJACULATION • JUST WHAT IS IT?

The phenomenon known in the medical and research community as female ejaculation has, for some time, been a controversial topic. Many lay persons quite possibly have never heard of this interesting aspect to female sexuality. Some researchers deny that such a phenomenon exists whereas others are skeptical that it is a separate action from urinary incontinence, and still others believe it exists but are unsure of its cause. This brief overview of existing theories regarding female ejaculation will shed some light on this controversial topic and introduce the condition to those who are unfamiliar with it.

Perry and Whipple (1981) were the first researchers who related the female "Grafenberg spot", named after the physician who first wrote about this anatomical area, to the orgasm induced female ejaculation. In 1950, Grafenberg noted that during the course of sexual stimulation the female urethra begins to enlarge and can be felt easily. He went on to write that an expulsion of fluid was related to the swelling spot on the anterior wall of the vagina and that it "occurs always at the acme of orgasm and simultaneous with it." The term female ejaculation, originated by Sevely and Bennett (1975) and Belzer (1981), refers to the orgasmic expulsion which is at least partially homologous to male ejaculation, rather than any other sort of expulsion of liquid which might occur at the time of a woman's orgasm, such as urine or vaginal secretions (Addiego et al., 1981). Since then, controversy has surrounded this topic as to where female ejaculate would come from, whether it truly is of the same consistency as seminal fluid in men, or whether women are merely urinating at the experience of an intense orgasm.

Perry and Whipple's (1981) study of pelvic muscle strength in relation to females who claimed to be ejaculators hypothesized the women who ejaculated upon orgasm have stronger pelvic muscle contractions under voluntary control than women who do not. This study also raised questions as to whether women can only have clitoral or vaginal orgasms by noting that women who ejaculated not only had stronger pubococcygeal muscle contractions, but also had stronger uterine contractions than non-ejaculators. Thus, this study may have introduced a third type of orgasm related to ejaculators referred to as a "uterine" orgasm. The findings of Perry and Whipple's study indicated that great sensitivity was noted on the anterior wall of the vagina, as first described by Grafenberg. Using a vaginal and uterine myograph, the researchers hypothesis was supported in that the women ejaculators in the study did have stronger internal pelvic muscles under voluntary control as well as stronger uterine contractions upon orgasm than non-ejaculators. These researchers admit that by simply doing Kegel exercises to increase pelvic muscle strength a female cannot be guaranteed to become able to ejaculate.

As to refuting whether women truly do emit a substance that is not urine upon orgasm, Addiego et al. (1981) conducted a case study involving a woman who had suffered from what was diagnosed as urinary incontinence despite the liquid not appearing to be urine. Upon learning how to do Kegel exercises properly, her urinary stress incontinence soon disappeared. However, she later became aware of the female ejaculation phenomenon and how it had been associated with the Grafenberg spot. This woman was thoroughly examined by the researchers who determined her genitalia were normal and healthy upon volunteering for this study. With the aid of the subject's husband, upon stimulation of her Grafenberg spot, an expulsion was noted when the woman reached orgasm. This process was repeated to obtain a sample of the liquid for study. Upon testing the liquid, it was found to contain higher levels of glucose and an enzyme, prostatic acid phosphatase, characteristic of the prostatic component of semen. Two substances commonly found in urine, urea and creatinine, were found at lower levels than in the subject's urine. Thus, from the results of tests conducted in this study, female ejaculation was proven to exist in at least one female, therefore, refuting the question as to whether the phenomenon exists at all.

In a similar study conducted by Goldberg et al. (1983), investigation continued as to whether the Grafenberg spot exists and whether female ejaculation occurs with stimulation of this area. In this study eleven women, six of whom claimed to be able to ejaculate upon orgasm, were examined by two gynecologists. These gynecologists found an area similar to other descriptions of the Grafenberg spot in four of the eleven women. The spot was not found more in ejaculators than nonejaculators. When the ejaculate emitted by six women was examined, elevated levels of prostatic acid phosphatase were not found and the substance was considered to be similar in biochemical properties to urine. The researchers provide possibilities as to why the gynecologists could not find the Grafenberg spot in every woman such as inexperience on their part may have inhibited them from finding the spot consistently and a bias may have occurred in which the gynecologists' wish to confirm the existence of the spot may have led them to "find" the spot more often the perhaps was warranted. This study did not support the previously mentioned study's claim that the ejaculate of the women in this study held unique properties homologous to male semen. Goldberg et al. do feel, however, that a negative implication of their study could lead to the misdiagnosis of urinary stress incontinence. They also mention that further research into the origins of the substance in necessary to disprove the claim that some females may have a gland similar to the prostate in males that allow these females to emit a fluid similar to male semen. They also feel that the Grafenberg spot's ability to heighten arousal and orgasm in females may be a separate research issue from female ejaculation. Other researchers, such as Alzate (1990) feel that the issues of female ejaculation and the Grafenberg spot contain no real relevance to human sexuality studies at all.

This has been a review of literature concerning female ejaculation and the controversy surrounding it. It was this writer's intention to bring this interesting human sexuality topic to the awareness of the individuals interested in human sexuality and all that the topic incorporates into it. This controversy will undoubtedly continue to go on despite the critics of its importance because we as human beings are fascinated by the range of human sexual behaviors.

One of the great sexual wonders of the world is Female Ejaculation. Called by a variety of names, from the poetic to the worshipful to the crass, Female Ejaculation is the Nectar of Aphrodite, the Fountain of Venus, the Champagne of Sex, the Geyser of Love. Squirting! Spurting! Spraying! Gushing. Female Ejaculation is carnal proof that a woman's ability to hit her lover right between the eyes when she comes is equal to that of a man. Thus, it's importance is not only erotic, but political, as it is a tangible, palatable (i.e., delicious!) symbol of female sexual power.

What, physiologically speaking, are we talking about here? There are, essentially, two types of Love Geysers: 1) G-Spot Female Ejaculation, and 2) Self-Squirting. This video photo-essay will examine both.

G-Spot Female Ejaculation

The G-Spot and female ejaculation have separately and together been areas of continuous, vociferous debate among sex researchers, doctors, sex educators and porn stars. Skeptics insist that there is no such thing as a G-Spot, that women who squirt are just peeing while they're coming, and all this hoopla over G-Spot Female Ejaculation is nothing but a glorified golden shower.

But throughout history, scientists and philosophers, as well as average men and women, have reported experiencing the forceful release of fluids from the vagina in the midst of sexual climax. None other than that great Macedonian scientist-cum-philosopher, Aristotle, wrote about women's vaginal expulsions which did not have the appearance or aroma of urine and did not stain the sheets.

The first modern description of female ejaculation came from the Netherlands, which is not so surprising as the Dutch have long been open-minded about sex. In the 17th century, Dr. Regnier DeGraaf wrote about the urethra being pierced by large ducts through which fluids are discharged, "occasionally in large quantities."

In 1950, a German obstetrician, Dr. Ernest Grafenberg found a spot within the vagina which he immediately named after himself: the G-spot. He found that stimulation of the G-spot could lead to expulsion of fluid from the urethra. "Large quantities of a clear, transparent fluid expelled not from the vulva, but out of the urethra in gushes," gushed Dr. G.

"At first, I thought that the bladder sphincter had become defective by the intensity of the orgasm. But," he continued, "the fluid was examined and it had no urinary character (rather it was) secretions of the intra-urethral glands correlated with the erotogenic zone along the urethra in the anterior vaginal wall." Sounds like squirting!

Still, the medical establishment has long been extremely dubious about female ejaculation. Dr. Gary Schubach and others have conducted experiments with ejaculating women, showing that the expelled fluid is "deurinized" liquid from the bladder mixed with discharge from the Skene's gland, considered the female equivalent of the prostate.

Yet the debate rages on. What exactly is the Geyser of Love? Is it real? Is it pee? Is it a different kind of fluid released from the urethral glands? Or is it, perhaps (as I suspect), an amazing female sexual mix of fluids, explosive juices and spraying squirting wetness? If women ejaculate, what does that mean about women and men? About penises and vulvas? About G-Spots and urethras?

If you were to refer to literature over the last 50 years you would be lead to believe that females have only been able to ejaculate since about 1980. Of course this is absurd, and just shows how "the experts" can be wrong for decades on just about anything. Many knew the experts were wrong, but had little success in convincing anyone. Needless to say this lead to many problems, needless surgery (to fix the poor women who would ejaculate), expensive counselling (got to find out what happened when they were children to cause this "problem"), and in some cases divorce. "The G Spot" by Alice Kahn Ladas, Beverly Whipple, and John D. Perry, has dozens of letters from women who went though various personal tragedies because they would ejaculate during lovemaking. Doctors, gynaecologists, and psychiatrists invariably told them they were peeing and needed either surgery or psychotherapy.

Newsweek published an article entitled "Just How the Sexes Differ" in May of 1981. One of the major difference was listed was that men ejaculate, but women do not. However, Aristotle wrote about female ejaculation, and Galen knew about it in the second century. The female prostate, which generates the fluid which is ejaculated, was described in some detail by De Graaf in his "New Treatise Concerning the Generative Organs of Women". (1) "... during the sexual act it discharges to lubricate the tract so copiously that it even flows outside the pudenda. This is the matter which may have been taken to be actual female semen." He describes the fluid as "rushing out" with "impetus" and "in one gush." (2)

The medical community was finally awakened in 1980 when Perry and Whipple showed a film of a female ejaculating to the SSSS (Society for the Scientific Study of Sex). Martin Weisberg, M.D., a gynecologist at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia responded, "Bull ... I spend half my waking hours examining, cutting apart, putting together, removing, or rearranging female reproductive organs. There is no female prostrate, and women don't ejaculate."

Yet after seeing the film and witnessing the event in person he changed his tune: "The vulva and vagina were normal with no abnormal masses or spots. The urethra was normal. Everything was normal. She then had her partner stimulate her by inserting two fingers into the vagina and stroking along the urethra lengthwise. To our amazement, the area began to swell. It eventually became a firm one by two cm oval area distinctly different from the rest of the vagina. In a few moments the subject seemed to perform a Valsalva maneuver (bearing down as if starting to defecate) and seconds later several cc's of milky fluid shot out the urethra. The material analysis described in the paper (Perry & Whipple's) is correct, its composition was closest to prostatic fluid".

Fluid Characteristics

The ejaculate is very much like prostrate fluid. It is usually clear, or milky and as thin as water. It does not have the look, smell or taste of urine. It is almost odorless. The taste varies, depending on the time of the month and diet, and possibly other factors, such as amount of stimulation received prior to ejaculating or time since the last ejaculation. It can vary from an almost honey sweet, sour, bitter, or a combination of these tastes.

Even though it is ejaculated from the urethra, it is most definitely not urine. It is absolutely impossible to pee during a orgasm unless there is a weak pubococcygeus muscle. This is very important, and it is important for the female and her partner to both understand this. The pubococcygeus muscle contracts when terminating a stream of urine, and is the muscle which contracts during orgasm. This contraction helps prevent retrograde ejaculation (ejaculation back into the bladder), and of course prevents the bladder from draining during orgasm.

Problems Women have Ejaculating

I think there are two major problems women face that prevents them from the immensely enjoyable experience of ejaculation. They are the female's mental attitude, and their partners inability or unwillingness to spend the time and effort during lovemaking and to learn the necessary techniques. We will address both of these problems and the solutions here.

The ejaculation is done through the urethra. This is the same tube that is used for urination. It is located outside the vagina, between it and the clitoris. The fluid is water like, and non- lubricating. In no way does ejaculation improve the chances of conceiving, it offers no lubrication, and is dumped outside of the vagina. The only conceivable purpose of female ejaculation is for pleasure. And the pleasure is intense, in many cases far surpassing the best orgasm's. Often ejaculation takes place during both a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm (yes there are two type of orgasms, clitoral and vaginal, but often orgasm is a combination of the two), giving the female extreme pleasure, sort of a triple whammy. Sometimes after ejaculation the female will virtually pass out from the intense feelings.

It can be argued that since the only reason that females can and do ejaculate is for pleasure, then there should be no reason for them to not do so, and as often as they please. It is one of the safer sex acts, since in most cases it can be triggered with fingers alone. Ejaculating from intercourse is more difficult, especially when performed from the missionary position, but still possible.

Preparation Recommendations for the Woman's Partner

Wash hands well. Trim fingernails. Make sure that the thumb, and first two finger nails do not extend past the fingertips. Trimming them as far back as possible would be best. Make sure that there is no dirt or crud under the fingernails.

Place a towel on the bed. A surprising amount of fluid can be released during female ejaculation. Compared to a male it can be like a water cannon instead of a water pistol.

Have some K&Y Jelly handy. At some point additional lubrication may be necessary, even if she is having heavy orgasms and climaxes.

Set aside enough time. The first successful ejaculation may take from 10 minutes to over an hour.

It may be wise to exercise your hands, fingers, and arm for several days prior to this exercise. The motions necessary can become quite tiring after a while if you are not in good physical shape.

Before beginning the first time, discuss it. Let her know that you are striving to give her an ejaculation. That female ejaculation is perfectly normal, and a wonderful experience for both of you. Convince her that there is nothing to be embarrassed about or ashamed of. Explain that just prior to ejaculation, she most likely will feel like she is about to pee. This is a difficult point for many women, as they will immediately draw back. Convince her that it is normally impossible to pee during an orgasm, and that the feeling is simply the first sign she is about to ejaculate.

Since the movement of the fluid through the urethra will initially feel exactly like when she starts to pee, this is very important. The reflex to stop peeing will immediately abort the ejaculation, so she needs to be told to relax, and allow the fluid to pass. In other words when she feels like she is about to pee, she should go ahead and pee. Only it really won't be pee, it will be an ejaculation, and within a couple of seconds it will be very obvious to her that this is something quite different. Once she knows the feeling, she will be able to push it out once it starts, with astounding results. It is best for the partner to be sitting between her legs at this time, else she may overshoot the towel or even wet the far wall.

Once she has ejaculated, rejoice with her. Don't make fun, or a joke. If you do it may be the last time she will be able to ejaculate, at least in your presence. Unlike a man, this is not the end. You can continue, and she may well have multiple orgasms and ejaculations with further stimulation.

Technique

Start slow. Use typical foreplay. You may want to start with her on her back. Stimulate the clitoris. This can be done with a moist finger, or with your tongue. Performing cunnilingus while rubbing her breasts with your hands can be quite stimulating for her. At any rate, continue clitoral stimulation until she is lubricated. At this point slide two fingers into her vagina. Allow them to move along the front wall of the vagina. You should encounter an area about 2 inches in, which should be somewhat enlarged. This is the G spot. It lies directly along the urethra, and is located almost directly behind the clitoris. Slowly stroke this area. It should start becoming more enlarged.

Ejaculation is almost always triggered by stimulating the G spot. Clitoral stimulation can often assist in helping her reach an ejaculation, and also can make it more intense. But stimulating the G spot is usually necessary at least initially. Once she starts ejaculating easily, she may find that clitoral stimulation alone is sufficient.

Stroking can be done a number of ways. The two fingers can rub the area as a unit, or they can take opposite strides, similar to walking. A third method involved sliding the two finders out a fraction of an inch, and pushing them back in, similar to the in- out motion of intercourse, but with smaller strokes. Initially pace the stimulation somewhat slow. Alternate with clitoral stimulation either with the thumb, other hand, or mouth/tongue. Also try simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and G spot. Watch her reactions.

Simultaneous may be too intense for some but necessary for ejaculation for others. Take your cues from her. When she starts bearing down, and you feel the vagina contract, begin pumping rapidly. When she is in the middle of an orgasm, stimulate the clitoris at the same time, and pump the G spot gently, but very rapidly. Talk to her. Say, "your getting it, go for it, don't worry, relax and let it come" or other similar words. She may need reassurance that if she drenches you, you will not be upset. Tell her how erotic you find it for her to ejaculate. Make her comfortable with both you, and the idea of ejaculation.

This actually is not the best position. If she does not succeed after a short time, have her roll over on her stomach, and get up on her knees. You will find stimulating the G spot much easier in this position, and she will most likely respond much better. With the two fingers turned down, slide your two fingers back into her vagina. Find the G spot and continue stimulating the G spot. You may use the other hand to stimulate the clitoris. If after a couple of orgasms, using rapid pumping on the G spot during orgasm, she still has not ejaculated, then turn the hand around, putting the thumb into the vagina.

The thumb will likely not reach the G spot, but don't worry, it should come up to meet the thumb during orgasm. Take the two fingers and lay them down on the clit. Allow the entire curve between the thumb and forefinger to lie along her from the vagina to her clitoris, and begin pumping with the thumb, and rubbing the clit at the same time. When she starts an orgasm, start pumping the entire hand rapidly. At this point she will most likely ejaculate. The trick is to massage the area where the urethra comes out, while stimulating the clitoris and G spot. This will help to override the feeling she is about to pee, and allow her to let it pass.

Be aware that the female is not only capable of multiple orgasms, but also multiple ejaculations. It is not unusual for her to have from 3 to 5 ejaculations before depleting her supply of cum. Once she has ejaculated one or more times, you can continue with intercourse. Entering from behind will stimulate the G-spot more easily than missionary style, and often additional ejaculations will occur during intercourse. Even if they don't, she will be highly excited, and very sensitive. The final result will most likely be the most intense and pleasurable sex she has ever had.

I highly recommend "The G Spot" for further reading.

Many still explain away the fluid some women eject from the urethra at climax as urine resulting from momentary loss of bladder control. While this might occur in a very small number of women, it does not explain the experience shared by some women: the fluid doesn't look like urine, doesn't smell like urine, and it has been proven in many chemical analyses that it is not urine. These women produce a small amount of clear fluid which has only trace amounts of uric acid; this indicates the fluid comes through the urethra, but does not come from the bladder. Chemically the fluid is very similar to the fluid from the male prostate.

Study has shown that the fluid comes from the "female prostate", more properly known as the paraurethral glands, and often referred to as the G-Spot. During gestation the male and female start with the same tissues, it's only after sex differentiation at about 40 days that the genitals begin to look different in the male and female fetus. The tissue which becomes the prostate in the male does not just disappear in the female, it becomes the paraurethral glands which surround the urethra. Based on postmortem dissections, we know that the amount of glandular tissue varies from woman to woman, and some women have no discernible glandular tissue in their G-spot. In some women the paraurethral glands produce fluid when the woman is highly aroused. Because the paraurethral glands open into the urethra, the muscle contractions of orgasm force this fluid into the urethra, and out of the body, creating an ejaculation of sorts. There are those who claim all women can "learn" how to ejaculate, but biology suggests otherwise; women who don't have any glandular tissue can't produce anything to ejaculate. Other woman may produce such a small amount of fluid that it's not noticed when mixed in with the other fluids that sex produces. Small amounts of fluid might not "squirt" out, but rather drip out after orgasm, much as semen does when a man has an almost-dry climax. It's also possible that the fluid may leak out before orgasm; men have a sphincter (valve) "downstream" of the prostate that keeps fluid from leaking, but women have no such sphincter. It has also been speculated that in some women the fluid is sent "upstream" and into the bladder. A few studies have shown some indication of female ejaculate in urine after orgasm, but it's not known if this is the result of a retrograde ejaculation or just the urine washing a small amount of fluid out of the urethra. In a recent study done by Dr. Santamaria Cabello1, prostate-specific antigen (PSA) was found in the post orgasm urine samples of 75% of the women studied. The PSA could only come from the paraurethral glands, indicating apparent ejaculation. Most of these women did not report an ejaculation, suggesting the amount of fluid was either small, or the ejaculation went into the bladder. With only 24 participants the study is somewhat limited, but it does suggest that most women ejaculate at least a little bit.

Worried that she is urinating, a woman may find the only way to avoid ejaculating is to not orgasm. The fluid comes through the urethra, but NOT from the bladder.

Lack of understanding of this phenomenon has caused some women great anguish. Worried that she is urinating, or accused of such by her husband, a woman may find the only way to avoid ejaculating is to not orgasm at all. Finding out they are normal, and convincing their husbands they are not "peeing" can make a world of difference. Ironically, growing awareness of female ejaculation has created another problem; women (or their husbands) who worry that there is something wrong with them because they don't ejaculate. Some folks have become "female ejaculation evangelists" claiming that all women can, and those who don't are missing out on the best sex they can have. A part of the zeal these folks exhibit may be based on a bad assumption about cause and effect. Some women who ejaculate say their ejaculatory orgasms are better than their non-ejaculatory ones, and some seem to think the ejaculation causes the orgasm to be better. A more likely hypothesis is that only strong orgasms cause ejaculation in those women who have the tissue to do so. The idea that the best "dry orgasm" of an non-ejaculator is inferior to the " wet orgasms" of ejaculators is not supported scientifically. Additionally some women say their dry and ejaculatory orgasms are very different, and some of these women say they feel unsatisfied without a "real" or dry orgasm at the end. Bottom line: no woman should feel she is being cheated because she doesn't need a pile of towels under her when she has sex.


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